my husband married another woman islam

I dont want to go back dont want to live with that man anymore. So first, polygamy is rule made by Allah and you have to accept it. Create an account, If you do not have an account, you can click the button below to create one, Create new account Log in, Join our e-mail list for regular site news and updates, All Rights Reserved for Islam Q&A 1997-2023. and first of all if a man is thinking about another woman other than his wife he is already committing a sin and marrying another woman without the consent of his wife he will commit a bigger sin regardless anything. dis is remainder to our dear sister, jst vice-vasa may ALLAH c us tru.tanx, InSha Allah. Surely if you love your wife you do not do that. Does their feelings dont count anymore? Our prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) just simply said that if a woman lets her husband have sex with her, then Alhamdulillah. After an argument or disagreement over certain issue women may be adamant and come up with excuses not to have sex whereas men are usually easy to ignore what has happened and can easily get involved. Your just Jealous!!! well sis dont get married then. Thanks a lot for your question and the interest you show in having a clearer view of the true teachings of Islam. I find point 3 rather black and white. Please advise me. Then he is not in true love with his first wife. Wow heres what women expect men to be like. Like having a strong financial condition and have the ability to do justice with both wives if he cant then he shouldnt go for second marriage. In the same line, wearing the cap (sorry, dont know the technical term for the cap), going to the mosque etc. And most men take advantage of that they have the women work, and then come home to cook and take care of the kids. Most men and women are using the Quran to twist things in their direction. He is ignoring me. Even that Muslims brother had a couple of wives in Paris. Okay, first of all, calm down. If muslim women can accept these little tips and advices, then our marriages will be wonderful. Surah Nisa verse 129 says: It is very difficult to be just and fair between women. It just means hes human.It is very important that you understand this. Well done. I recommend you seek marriage counselling to help find a solution to your problems as this is a complicated matter for which we cant give exact advice. GOD has not created women emotionless If it dont kill you then it can only make you stronger!!!! i understand now whyand hope that we can adjust to each other more. Surah Mujadilah (58) Read it. alhamdulillah we were blessed with a lill princess.hubby has changed since I gave birth to our bby.he would touched me whenever he want.he loves kids so do I.i thought maybe its because he was tired thats why he refused to sleep with me in 3 to 4 days..after that he would come n touched me again.now I had to undergo an abortion. In marriage at least men are asking for HALAL sex , men are just more horny than girls so if you love your husband and he needs you to relieve his sexual desires then so be it . She was loyal and pleased him sexually, why did he venture off? As described in one of the verses of the Quran below. It is not obligatory for the husband, if he wants to take a second wife, to have the consent of his first wife, but it is good manners and kindness to deal with her in such a manner that will minimize the hurt feelings such thing might produce. Kudos to the author. We have Your side of the story sister. However, men are not obliged to take permission but at the same time they are required to inform their wives. We are all human and built that way. This Ive witnessed in many families. We want a gorgeous hero for a husband ad much ad you want a gorgeous wife. assalamualaikum,, I not married as yet but I see so much truth in this article by examples of those married or who has been married around me. He is a beautiful soul! May Allah forgive you, Salam, However, in many Muslim cultures, men are raised to be stoic and tight-lipped. If he is mistreating you, you have the right to leave him. Annie, I realize this article dated from 2017 and you asked a fantastic question. know where his interests lie, so he prays istikhaarah asking that Allaah what he wants and you were to get divorced from your husband Allaah forbid It is very unfortunate that some women object less to their What should I do. Because you are right not every man is the same and no one should follow this article (its based on the authors experiences) only act as the person you married acts towards you and follow Allah he whos judges all. hers will be destroyed at her hands. Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5642; Muslim, 2573, from the hadeeth But there are certain aspects of that needs addressing. Yea he loves me but sometimes i have an issue with trust. May God help you in your situation ameen. In other times, such as major war, when there are few marryable men around and many women left unwed and with no one to have children with, polygamy is a good thing because more women can be married and having kids. Or why is polygamy allowed in Islam? Though Islam permits man to have more than a wife, it stipulates that certain conditions are to be met in this regard, for Islam's main focus is on building a stable marital life. Polygamy is a difficult situation to address. He has rights and so do you This, like everything in religion, comes down to meaning and application by the individual. Good advice, but zowji doesnt like sandwhiches! From hubby n my in-laws also. We had 5 kids and he had been an active Leader in our Catholic Church organization. Sara (not her real name) is a 40-year-old Muslim convert. Please guide me in islamic way, I feel for you, you seem to have loved this guy and he seemed to be using you Hibbaan: If a woman offers her five daily prayers and fasts her month It was only later, that the Hindu priests and the Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one. Urgh..How transparent..what a way to twist things to advocate ones own desires.. why most men and yourself (a women) would just agree, and men feel superior to not even ask, if because of superiority and ego. May Allah bless you. I have two kids with him and I dont want my kids got hurt. The reasons for allowing polygamy to continue, while restricting the total number of wives to 4, and placing limits on revolving-door style marriage-divorce-remarriage patterns, as well as explicitly stating the command that all wives MUST be treated equally and with absolute fairness is part of Allahs infinite wisdom, since He also adds a little later in the Sura that a man can NEVER treat all wives equally. Surely there are other ways that you can help her out financially without having to MARRY her! The mind is what you will live with for fifty years. good care of her. But I had no skill. A wife is entitled to a good sustenance and clothing in a way that sensible. I loved it all. I dont know. my husband is the Muslim I am a Christian so I dont understand his Church he wanted me 2 be with him 2 his Church so I refused he said he is going 2 marry another wife I am unhappy please help me. Note that this life is the life of trials and tests, and how He wants me to marry him and be his 2nd wife. You can imagine how frustrating it would be for a man, who tries his best to care for his family, to be married to a woman who doesnt respect him. He said that I wasn't attractive and that he wants to spend the remainder of his life with a young and attractive woman. More men die due to accidents and diseases than women. The Prophet did warn men not to hurt their wives and then expect sex an hour later. Allah commands us in the Quran to lower our gaze, which is to prevent us from having improper thoughts. I would suggest acknowledging the layers of your relationship with him and the in-laws to have a better sense of how to orient your discussions. A man who thinks about other women issue- he will not get that much desired loyalty,respect and the sex on the plate that he expects from his wife. it says in quran it is permitted i wouldnt accept it.but it also says its better for him to take only one does it not and you need the permission of your wife also you can divorce him if you cant manage that,,,which would be very hard but if he did that,, that would tell me he doesnt care about me . JazakAllahukhayran for your comment it was a point well made. sex and bearing children are the biggest rights of men in marriage. With a marriage will create offspring and kinship ties. This is just how it is, in all schools of thought in Islam. If a man takes a second wife and he does not make this second marriage public this is not Islamic. The way I see it is, treat your wife how you expect to be treated back, treat your husband the way you expect him to treat you, men and women are equal, Im tired of these sick men that think they deserve everything when they dont give anything, has this guy ever thought about womens needs and wants?? Now they both can change that according to their mutual consent, but if there is a conflict, it is going to be judged according to the responsibilities divided by Allah(swt). At present it is the Indian Law that restricts a Hindu man from having more than one wife and not the Hindu scriptures. It was a woman recently divorced, 4 children. Gifts dont make up for it, and gifts dont make me respect someone. One of the blessings that Allaah bestows upon some spouses is U just mention everything from men side but ll these important for a woman as well. You have a nerve to say all men want another woman at some time. I have a problem maybe you can help.hubby n I have been married since 4years.we were really happy. Islam prefers giving women the honourable position by permitting the first option and disallowing the second. Allah is watching and the almighty will give you strength and courage. dont make up hadiths urself. To put him back on track, just reduce your level of love to the minimum level which is your duty, and he will do everything to get you and that extra love and care back I dont mean sex only, by Love. well said KAY i totally agree with you. This may be found out by researching about the man and asking his friends and neighbours, and the imam of his mosque; you should not base your decision on emotions or unverified claims. 3) Its one of the things that will actually also keep the man satisfied. Good question. [Al-Quran (4:129)]. family, and praying istikhaarah about hurting her children, and praying Shaina i advice u 2 believe totally in Allahs word otherwise u will be among unbeliever, Allah as d creator know what is good us, Man are allow 2 marry more than one wife and we all see how female are very very Plenty than male i pray u will not be among 39 or 40s years ladie who av not sure of a particular man. The person I was getting married knew I never wanted to marry him and I dislike him from my heart and I can never love him. Actually, the purpose of Islam allows polygamy is to abstain from adultery. You dont understand it fully and you really should not say such things because you are actually saying that you ar disgusted with Allah! Am I not good enough? asalamu alaikum, Here are the hadith that explain this, O youth, who among you who have baah then should he marry (Narrated by al-Bukhari), 9. I repented, not once in my life did I think my action worthy of repentance because I had done nothing wrong. The dream about your husband is a good omen, foretelling some pleasant events. The writer is just being realistic! Maybe he should bathe regularly, groom himself well, put on clean bed clothes, not treat her with contempt and be a thoughtful sex partner. If I am correct, the correct reference is that the angels will curse the wife who refuses her husbands request for sex. and today am happily living with my husband and a bouncing baby boy , with all this help rendered to me through this DR ABULU OF (abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com )i will always thank him forever and testify his goodness in my life for other,s to hear an see , once again thank you DR for bringing back my family . How she feels is less valuable than him getting off. I prayed that she will accept me. When was the last time a man was questioned about his wifes happiness? to Allaah for this great blessing and strive to preserve it and the family This was shockingly one sided. Why is a man allowed to marry more than one wife in Islam? Here is one of the hadiths where Prophet Muhammad SAW advocated men to choose fertile women. Because of this my husband calls me disloyal yet if i dont confide and let my worries out i feel overwhelmed, anxious, miserable even to the extent of feeling ill. i would love nothing more than to see my husband off to work and welcome him home to a clean tidy house, a meal on the table and myself looking the way he likes me to look. If anything, she is going to think U cheated or did something wrong if U keep throwing dunua at her, Correct 100%..if the above post is giving u everything with reference and inspite of this you are not accepting it means you are zionistand woman dont make your own rules and laws this world is hell due to yours silly thinkings got it, Subhan Allah..JazakAllah,.. That my way is a little cliche, and sterotypical but none the less, he still loves me. I get so tired of reading articles like this. I dont think he likes me or my family. I would leave him the second he mentioned it to me. My husband and I have been married for a long time. It was a good article and the author wrote it with good intention. Perfect for me, but he wants me to be his second wife. Thats what life is. There would be more than four million females in Great Britain 5 million females in Germany and nine million females in Russia alone who would not be able to find a husband. according to islam wat is the solution for this? dream and the like, these are usually illusionary matters on which no shari In fact, his step mother forced her husband into second marriage to have children). not want to and he still goes ahead with it? This is a conversation you need to open up to him and be persistent to understand his reasoning. thorn that pricks him, but Allaah will expiate his sins thereby.. Please reference your sources, maybe you need to be careful what you say cause you will be accountable for your intentions and whats in your heart. Most of comments are pointing to second marriage and bla bla. It is his conduct with his wives and living a life according to Islam that will determine where he ( and all muslims) will end up. Of course sister if a woman wanted to have sex with her husband & intensionally he refuse it. There have been cases where girls went away from their family, are alone away in a foreign country and facing difficult circumstances with no way out. Re: My Husband Married Another Woman Secretly and Expects Me to Accept it. A womans being patient in obeying her husband is one of the with them)] for you and you are the same for them. He never mentioned a second wife again and I was happy with that. Does her happiness matter? This goes hand in hand with respect.Theres nothing that will ruin a marriage quicker than the idea that your spouse is not loyal. I dont know if I should go away, dissappear. Uh thats not very fair? Is Misuse of Polygamy the Main Cause for Divorce? Our teachings go back a very long time, what Allah has given the Prophet (PBUH) to teach us is final, to question it is not right.equality is important, and we are taught that. my husband love me lot of. This is a clause usually ignored or taken lightly by many men, depriving women the rights Allah Almighty has granted. I rather not have a car or smartphone from my husband but have his LOYALTY. Having dinner & lunch with your wife together makes her feel more special too. Just a curious question: as for men racing to take 2,3 or 4 wives but why is it that in old age when sick and frail then the man races back to the first wife ? You cannot say Im a muslim but I dont agree to polygamy. but my husband love me also, he told me that he will not leave me. He probably cheated on you because you didnt fulfill his sexual desires so he left you in the dust. But if a Muslim prays istikhaarah with regard to I will not stand for it! Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allaah How many can do so? If she is married, then such a If I found out my husband was thinking about other women I would divorce him straight away. (interpretation of the meaning): Verily, he who fears Allaah with obedience to Him (by But before we can really comment about marriage, marry one first, then youll know what is unknown to you before tying the knot. You will be held accountable. Even ALLAH Dont force for Pray. We, the people, are the ones who give life to religion and make meaning of it the way we want. Men get turned on, just by looking at other women. Islam put an upper limit of four wives. So that really shows how big a mans right is in this issue. Thanks for advice. Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and his companions, You give her (your wife) to eat if you eat and give her clothes if you dress. Sometimes we screw it up and forget our anniversary. Many people are under the misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to marry more than one wife. Please make duaa for me and help me in this very diffcult situation as I dont want to cause any pain to my husband and my family. She is having a hard time, he said, she dont know where the next meal is coming from or how to provide adequately for her children. P.S Please keep open minds, do not try to scare one another with threats of you nearly left islam with your words. And none of his wives ever complained about anything. I have 5 years old boy child. And always remember if MAN is not just amongst his wives, Allah is watching him. The unending complaints of adultery, abuse and bad behavior is considered normal these days. Correction is painful. Source: For a single woman to dream that she is being loved by a husband is a sign that it is time for her to think of marriage. In Islam, marriage is a solemn contract for which the Shari`ah lays down rules and arrangements to guarantee its stability. Also kind of hypocritical how the writer first says women want to feel loved and men want to feel respected. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. My husband converted to Islam 7 years and I converted 4 years ago. Win his trust, by not avoiding unnecessary problems of the day as much as you can, and tell him the most necessary ones, at the right time. AssalamuAlaykum Im happy,couze my husband big resfect me when it comes sex,if he want and idont like make sex w/ him,he just say ok fine but he is not angry 2 me..thans 4 the nice topics n adviceAllah huakbar.. hmmm youre happy; but is he really happy? He has passwords on his phone and computer and will not let me see. My husband gets alot of inbox messages from facebook from different women all the time. And if you read all the way through surat al-nisa youll come to the part where God basically says You will not be able to treat them(women) equally. this young man and has made him attractive to you so that he may achieve However, in most cases, when the secret is revealed, the wife never accepts the situation nor forgives the husband. I wanted to go out and enjoy my life like others do but my life became very dark n I started going into depression. Wife is a comforter, a caretaker, an adviser, and the guardian of the property of her husband in his absence. Im really not in the mood.. Islam is about logic and clear thinking. Prince charming!!! If he can be attracted to another woman to the extent that hed want to marry her then he never loved me enough. May Allah grant us all taqwa and love and understanding of His deen. Us girls leave our loving family homes to be with our husbands and create that same love there. Make a big deal about his muscles, how generous he was to help out with his friends hospital bills, how proud you are to have a husband that makes his salaah. These are your sisters in Islam, advise them with kindness instead of cruelly pushing them away! With this shariah polygamy, of course, this benefit will not disappear in vain.(Shaykh Muhammad Asy Syanqithi in Adhwaul Bayaan quoted from Jami Ahkamin Nisaa). Bukhari and Muslim. 1. Sometimes you have to be careful in the words you choose when talking about your faith. Thwart the plans of the shaytaan by not letting this young It is hard to be all that for a man who doesnt respect,show love,have intimacy and hardly spends any time with kidsDo not bother him with small talk?what is that? So do not you lean to the truth to the wife you love so much that you let the other wives hang. Jazakallahukairan, am really insppired by this post. According to these scriptures one can marry as many as one wishes. Beware of what comes out of your months about the DEEN, it may end up against you some day & you find yourself BEGGING to be another mans 2nd wife. I am really impressed. After all my warnings and threats of leaving he abandoned the idea. So you apparently know nothing about women. I came to my parents I told them and I told them I cant live with him please set me free. Your right to them is that they do not allow anyone you hate to step on your stretch. Actually, this can be part of the marriage contract. The second rule if you want to do a second marriage in Islam, make sure you as a man can do justice. In particular the Hadith. You may want to read aboutRight Ways How to be Closer to Allah SWT. Thank you. Brothers, dont blame your wives if you start having impure thoughts about other women. But why men want loyality from women yet they themselves think about other women :s its ok & natural for them to think and dream abt other women, isnt it wrong ??? The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) stated that if a man were to leave his home and see something of desire, he should go back to his wife and satiate it. You have to live your life to the fullest and your children deserve a safe and loving environment to grow up in, not one in which their beloved mother is abused. I agree with Kay and I am a muslim Man. For anyone who is not fair to his wife, there will be consequences on the Day of Judgment. I did not find anything to be forced. (fyi their needs, desires, and emotions may be different from ours but their still there). In Islam, of course, this is permissible if the wife approves her husband wishes. I really enjoyed it and may Allah bless the author,amin. Sister when you said i will never accept this part of islam you could have come out the fold of islam!! Serve you to God in the matters of wives, for you take them with the message of Allah and you make their halal cults with the words of Allah. what if a woman has more than average desire. Same here so many times my time has been wasted because of liars. (Ameen). Today, if any western research say that dont refuse your husband for sex if he wants to and researcher may give any xyz reason, then it will not be ridiculous and unsettling part of Islam. 2 If a woman accepts that and treats her husband and the both of you. Personally if my husband choice to take a second wife I wouldnt be jealous or stop him because marriage to me is not about love its about having children and raising them in an healthy environment. But being responsible caring wives and homemakers we dont act on suc impulses. I would understand this rule if it was practiced under emergency circumstances such as after a war when there are a lot of widows who can't support their families, or in a society when women outnumber the men. Thankyou. Yes it says in the quran that men can have four wives, but it is for a reason, and the quran is written in such a way that you can argue Kays point. Islam opened the door and there are no conditions except like the conditions of any marriage (financial emotional and mental support) with the exception of justice and fairness.. The practice of polygyny continued till Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah. Do not hit the face, do not vilify, and do not boycott it other than inside the house. ( HR. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). guarantee that it will not happen again? 1 - Her husband's marrying another wife is regarded as a test and trial for her, and if she bears that with patience she will have the reward for being patient in the face of a trial, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): "Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in full, without reckoning" [al-Zumar 39:10] there are many ways a man can help and support other womans without having to marry them and having any relationships. SubhanAllah ladies , stop being selfish . Plain and simple. India is one of the few countries, along with the other neighbouring countries, in which the female population is less than the male population. I have updated the question to add this generality. but Allah ordered it in quran, the order of allah is justice because islam is full. Polygamy is a big responsibility. the author needs to reevaluate his Islamic morals! When we wrote our nikkah, I ask this to be added. Thus, you are right when you ask how can this be right if it is destroying the first family. Your husband must be open and transparent with you in this matter and realize that his decision is detrimental to his current family if he does not resolve your lack of participation. wake up to your self. whatever u feel is just ur buisness,what u do to others is that what counts.go about fantasising,even the Lord does not put a reign to it but 4 heavens sake ur wife is a human and it is quiet possible infact true in most cases in our so called MUSLIM SOCIETIES that women do all that n mre.i am a living example n i wont let anyone bring me down by justifying mens actions after all that ive been thru.my dear sisters i am beautiful,,loving ,loyal never refused sex,even for a single day.he used to tell me ur the goddess ov it all.My Lord had to bring me down cause i made my husband my lord.yes!!! One should learn how to respect his wife. 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